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The Sad Circus by the Sea - Please Help Me Find My Mother-In-Law
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Sun, Feb. 24th, 2008 03:47 pm
Please Help Me Find My Mother-In-Law



Tavisha's mother, my mother-in-law, Dyane "Dee" Blackford is missing. She was last seen at 7:15 AM, Thursday, February 21st at her retirement home in Glendale, California. It's now Sunday the 24th and she is now three days gone from her place of safety. She has dementia brought on by aphasia, she cannot understand language either written or spoken, and she speaks mostly in gibberish. She cannot say her name nor does she always answer when you call her by name, but she will often say "Hi!" and she is very friendly, especially to strangers. Dee suffered what we believe to be a stroke, possibly in March of 2003 and I still remember what she said when she called me that week: "I feel like I walked into a dream." From there her ability to comprehend language of any kind rapidly declined.

We have filed a missing persons report with the police department in Glendale, Tavisha has called all of the local hospital and psychiatric wards in the area asking for a Jane Doe (since Dee cannot say her name and she had no ID on her), we've driven around in Glendale looking for homeless areas, and we've given her photo to the security at the Glendale Galleria, and the police say they will deliver her photo and information to the local news.

We live 90 miles away from Dee and no one at the senior center knows what happened to her. All we know for certain is that she had breakfast just before 7:00 AM and that one of the attendants saw her at 7:15 AM, but after that she was just gone. No one saw her leave. The whole facility has been searched, as well as another senior center down the street. The other senior center had a bad habit in the past ( I would say criminal habit) of actually kidnapping residents at Dee's center and making them sign up at the other residence. They swear this is not the case with Dee. Clandestine senior center appropriations, who knew?

Dee is 5 foot 3 inches tall, Japanese/Asian-American, she has a bit longer hair than the photo above and she is about ten pounds heavier. She is 62 years old but she looks to be in her 50's. She has an old frayed black purse (we bought her a new one, she threw it away) but she has no money and no ID, and she was wearing tan pants.

She could be anywhere now, if someone picked her up, so I ask that if you live in the Southern California area, particularly Los Angeles County, please take a closer look if you see a homeless asian woman.


Dee has been found! She seems to be all right. She was delivered to a hospital in Los Angeles (by who, we don't know) and has been there since Friday evening. This of course, is one of the hospitals we somehow missed. She is being given a new MRI scan and she is being tested for any sign of assault and then we will be able to see her tomorrow. Thank you, thank you, a thousand thank yous to everyone who posted and helped us search for her. I sure do love the Internets right now. Tavisha will post an update to her Deviant Art and her Live Journal as soon as she gets off the phone.

-Rikki

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jen_aside
jen_aside
Jen Aside
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 01:17 am (UTC)

OMG, how awful! You guys are in my prayers =(


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doodlesthegreat
doodlesthegreat
Doodles
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 02:02 am (UTC)

Holy shit. I'll look around my area. If it's been three days, who knows how far she may have gotten.


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invadertwinkie
invadertwinkie
Kit Twonkie Snicket
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 02:17 am (UTC)

I'm a So Cal girl, so I will put her picture up in my library and post.

Best of wishes.


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bitpig
bitpig
Bruce The Psychic Guy
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 02:20 am (UTC)

no one at the senior center knows what happened to her

WTF???

First, we're praying that you find her soon. If there is anything we can do, ANYTHING, just ask.

Second: when you do find her, I hope you find a safe place for her, then sue the living crap out of that senior center. Criminal charges may also be in order.

We're thinking of you. Call if you need us.


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 03:25 am (UTC)

Thank you, Bruce, but the thing is, I don't know if any retirement home is safer than the one she's currently at. Most don't take people in Dee's condition. I think legal repercussions are something to only consider if, heaven forbid, she is never found. They do need to change their security and they do need to tag every resident with at least a bracelet. I don't know why this wasn't done prior, and I always assumed that she was wearing something with her address. That's as much my mistake as it is the senior center's. Also, the administrator of the facility is a very nice woman, and we've been working with her closely on this.

Thank you again though for your kind thoughts. We'll keep you updated.


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jetbaby
jetbaby
Jetbaby
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 02:31 am (UTC)

Unfortunately, I'm on the wrong coast to be of any real help to you. For what it's worth, you and your mother-in-law are in my thoughts.


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happy2knit
happy2knit
happy2knit
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 03:09 am (UTC)
I'm In Glendale

I am a Realtor in the area and I maintain a hyper local blog. I will link to your post and hope for the best! Can you tell us where the facility is? Perhaps my readers can pay special attention around there. My blog is www.kendylsopenhouse.com Good luck! My prayers are with you.


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 03:17 am (UTC)
Re: I'm In Glendale

Thank you! She disappeared from Leisure Vale Retirement Home, which is on E Cypress St. right next to the big Forest Lawn Cemetery.


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finalglory
finalglory
finalglory
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 03:15 am (UTC)

I don't know what to say....I wish I could help more. You guys are in my thoughts. I hope she gets found soon...really, really soon.


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synchra
synchra
Synchra
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 03:18 am (UTC)

oh no! I hope she is found. :( I don't live near you but if she somehow turns up NorCal, I'll tell you. I am thinking good thoughts for you reguardless.


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originalmanley
originalmanley
George
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 03:32 am (UTC)

Although I'm a bunch of miles away, I've committed the pic to memory and my thoughts, of course, are with you.

GM


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muffins_of_god
muffins_of_god
muffins_of_god
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 04:07 am (UTC)

Oh Rikki...I'm sorry. Please give Tavi my best and know that you guys are in my prayers and thoughts. I hope Mrs. Blackford is found safe and sound.

I can't do much from here, but you guys have my cell, please call if there's anything I can do, even if it's an ear to listen.


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etherlad
etherlad
Ian A. A. Watson
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 04:38 am (UTC)

I can imagine nothing more terrifying.

I'm so very very sorry. I hope she's found soon.


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sexualcabinetry
sexualcabinetry
The Previous Grand Mufti (aka Max Brooks)
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 04:51 am (UTC)

This happened with my grandfather, who also had dementia/aphasia. He disappeared for a week and they found him asleep in somebody's car that he had broken into, starving.

You're in my thoughts and prayers... keep us updated.


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 12:04 pm (UTC)

God Lord. The brain is a horrible betrayer.


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xxaemiliusxx
xxaemiliusxx
Aemilius
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 05:03 am (UTC)

I am so so sorry to hear about this, I will be praying for you two. I wish I could help.


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zoemoss
zoemoss
Zoë Moss
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 05:13 am (UTC)

I live in Valencia during the week and usually travel back to Los Angeles on the weekends. I will be keeping my eyes open and wish the best for a speedy find.


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 12:01 pm (UTC)

Thank you, Capn!


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rohantm
rohantm
John Scharmen
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 06:34 am (UTC)

Oh man, still missing. My hopes are with you guys. Please don't hesitate to call if there is anything I can do.


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bfirrera
bfirrera
Bryan F. Irrera
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 06:40 am (UTC)

My prayers go out to you and Tavi!


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beeishscary
beeishscary
ZEE.
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 07:24 am (UTC)

How awful.

My thoughts go out to you and Tavi.


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shanmuir
shanmuir
Shannon Muir
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 07:44 am (UTC)

Rikki, I work just a few blocks from the Galleria now. As you said, she may not be that local anymore but I will definitely keep my eye out.

Praying you find her safe.

- Shannon Muir


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 11:58 am (UTC)

Hi, Shannon, long time no see. Thanks for looking out!


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kayjkay
kayjkay
Le singe a...disparu!
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 07:50 am (UTC)

Hey Rikki,

I live in Glendale, so if there's anything I can do to help, let me know? My beau and I live off Brand Ave. We know where all the major retirement homes are off Broadway, as it's close to Home Depot.

Either way, lots of juju in your search.


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 11:57 am (UTC)

Ah, we were on both Brand and Broadway yesterday. That's definitely the area. Thank you for looking!


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daringdragoon
daringdragoon
daringdragoon
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 08:15 am (UTC)

Hey Rikki, I already commented on Tavi's journal entry but G and I will keep our eyes open and I've just passed the word along to all of our friends in The South Bay and across the whole of LA County. Tomorrow I'll ask people at work to be on the look out. Our love, thoughts and prayers are with you and Tavi.

V & G


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rikkisimons
rikkisimons
Rikki Simons
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 11:59 am (UTC)

Hi, Vince! Thanks for your help! Say ho to Gwen for us!


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wendythemommy
wendythemommy
WENDY (F) first used in J. M. Barrie's 'Peter Pan'
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 01:13 pm (UTC)

i'll link this from my lj. you're all in my prayers.


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angel_machine
angel_machine
sarin machina
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 01:48 pm (UTC)

I might not live in LA, but my brother has friends there, and I'm passing this along to them. If nothing else it'll add a couple more pairs of eyes to the search.
I hope she's found safe, and soon. I can only imagine what Tavi and yourself are going through.


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angel_machine
angel_machine
sarin machina
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 01:56 pm (UTC)

I posted bulletins on my Myspace as well... I'd forgotten I have some So Cal band-type friends and whatnot. Like I said, I can't do much from Ohio, but I'll do everything I can.


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whataworld
whataworld
Doreen
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 02:32 pm (UTC)

i live in riverside county but i'll totally be on the lookout for her. this must be really hard to go through. my prayers go up for you and your family.


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thatjamiegirl
thatjamiegirl
Jamie
Mon, Feb. 25th, 2008 02:49 pm (UTC)

Oh my gosh, how scary! I live nowhere near the area, but I'll send good vibes your way for a speedy and safe find.


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